Tuesday, May 15, 2007

It's Not Supposed To Happen

He was only 37.
I Loved him.
We were really close....at one time anyway...
We were in each other's weddings...I was at the hospital when his first daughter was born.
Things don't always go as you hope.
Chris made some very bad decisions in life.
Decisions that cost his business, his marriage, his friendships.
Despite all of the betrayals and deceit though, I still loved the guy.
He had a special place in my heart.
Chris died on the morning of Friday, April 27th.
He had some health problems that seemed to get worse, like a stone picking up speed as rolls down hill.
He had been relegated to a wheel chair the last year...developed three staff infections... a lung infection which they were treating with antibiotics.
Thursday the 26th he began having difficulty breathing so went into the hospital.
That night he was put on a vent in the ICU.
The next morning he had a cardiac arrest and died.
Pulmonary Embolism, more than likely.
37 is young.
Heck, I'll be 40 this year and I feel young.
37 year olds aren't supposed to die like that.
Car crash maybe...accident at work...but not like that.
He was such a gifted man.
Talent, smart, funny (He enjoyed his own humor the most)..wasted.
He really did squander his talents because of demons he had so much trouble shaking.
So many bridges that carried so many friendships burned...
The faces at the funeral were grieving the loss of his life, yes, but more so I think, for the loss of what could have been with Chris.
I think there was healing in his death though.
People were forced to deal with issues.
His mother hadn't seen her granddaughters in years.
Chris' ex-wife attended...along with the girls.
There seemed to be much needed reconciliation between the two women.
Life renewed because of his death?
I certainly hope so.
The whole thing really made me think about the importance of restoring relationships.

2 Corinthians 5: 18-19
"Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation."

Friday, May 04, 2007


My brother has received some bad news this week.
Back in December he suffered from idiopathic vertigo and syncope.
For days he was unable to get off of the floor of his apartment and lost many hours of work...the hospital was unable to explain what had happened...three different blood tests kept clotting so they decided to forgo further blood tests and equated it to a benign vestibular dysfunction....inexplicably, the symptoms went away.
Well, they reappeared again last week. Blood tests this time revealed an incredibly high Red Blood Cell count. He had a RBC count of 22!
The hematologist stated that it was the highest he's ever seen. My brother told the doctor, "This scares the heck out of me."
The hematologist leaned toward my brother and said, "This scares the heck out of me too."
The doctor told him that he has a disorder called Polycythemia Vera. Even considering the condition, the hematologist stated that my brother had the "Thickest blood" he had ever seen. They are really surprised that he is still alive.
One of the treatments for Polycythemia Vera is taking a unit of blood a week.
My brother is requiring the taking of two units a week.
So....needless to say, our family would really covet your prayers.

Note: From The National Heart Lung And Blood Institute website.

What Is Polycythemia Vera?

Polycythemia vera (POL-e-si-THE-me-ah VE-ra), or PV, is a rare blood disease in which your body makes too many red blood cells. These extra red blood cells make your blood thicker than normal. The thickened blood flows more slowly through your small blood vessels and can form clots. These clots can cause heart attack and stroke.

Blood cells are formed in your bone marrow—the soft tissue inside bones. In addition to red blood cells, your blood contains two other types of cells: white blood cells to help fight infection and platelets to help your blood clot. If you have PV, your bone marrow produces too many red blood cells, but it also can make too many white blood cells and platelets.

Red blood cells also are called RBCs or erythrocytes (eh-RITH-ro-sites). Normal red blood cells look like doughnuts without holes in the center and have an average lifespan of 120 days. Red blood cells contain hemoglobin (HEE-muh-glow-bin), an iron-rich protein that gives blood its red color and carries oxygen to the body. Red blood cells also remove carbon dioxide, a waste product, from cells and carry it to the lungs to be exhaled.
Important General Information

PV is a rare, chronic disease that can be fatal if not diagnosed and treated. The cause of PV is not known. It develops slowly and may not produce symptoms for many years. Sometimes, your symptoms can be vague and nonspecific. Many people find out they have PV from blood tests done for other reasons. It is more common in adult males 60 years or older. It is very rare in people younger than 20 years.

With PV, thicker than normal blood slows down the flow of blood to all parts of your body. Clots can form more easily, which can block blood flow through arteries or veins. The slower flow of blood means your organs don’t receive enough oxygen. The shortage of oxygen can lead to angina, congestive heart failure, and gout. Slower blood flow also deprives your arms, legs, lungs, and eyes of the oxygen they need to perform normally. This can cause headaches, dizziness, itching, and problems with your vision, such as blurred or double vision.

PV may also cause you to develop stomach ulcers and kidney stones.

A small number of people with PV may develop myelofibrosis (MY-e-lo-fi-BRO-sis), a condition in which your bone marrow is replaced by fibrous (scar) tissue. The abnormal bone marrow cells may begin to grow out of control. This abnormal growth can lead to acute myelogenous (my-e-LOJ-e-nus) leukemia (AML), a disease that worsens very quickly. In AML, too many immature white blood cells are found in the blood and bone marrow.

PV is a serious illness that can lead to death if it is not treated.

PV can be controlled with treatment, but no cure exists. If you think you or someone you know might have PV, it is important to talk to your doctor about it. Some people with PV need only minimal care. Others will need more intensive treatment. Treatment can control PV and lessen the risk of blood clots, heart attack, and stroke that can result from the disease.