Tuesday, May 15, 2007

It's Not Supposed To Happen

He was only 37.
I Loved him.
We were really close....at one time anyway...
We were in each other's weddings...I was at the hospital when his first daughter was born.
Things don't always go as you hope.
Chris made some very bad decisions in life.
Decisions that cost his business, his marriage, his friendships.
Despite all of the betrayals and deceit though, I still loved the guy.
He had a special place in my heart.
Chris died on the morning of Friday, April 27th.
He had some health problems that seemed to get worse, like a stone picking up speed as rolls down hill.
He had been relegated to a wheel chair the last year...developed three staff infections... a lung infection which they were treating with antibiotics.
Thursday the 26th he began having difficulty breathing so went into the hospital.
That night he was put on a vent in the ICU.
The next morning he had a cardiac arrest and died.
Pulmonary Embolism, more than likely.
37 is young.
Heck, I'll be 40 this year and I feel young.
37 year olds aren't supposed to die like that.
Car crash maybe...accident at work...but not like that.
He was such a gifted man.
Talent, smart, funny (He enjoyed his own humor the most)..wasted.
He really did squander his talents because of demons he had so much trouble shaking.
So many bridges that carried so many friendships burned...
The faces at the funeral were grieving the loss of his life, yes, but more so I think, for the loss of what could have been with Chris.
I think there was healing in his death though.
People were forced to deal with issues.
His mother hadn't seen her granddaughters in years.
Chris' ex-wife attended...along with the girls.
There seemed to be much needed reconciliation between the two women.
Life renewed because of his death?
I certainly hope so.
The whole thing really made me think about the importance of restoring relationships.

2 Corinthians 5: 18-19
"Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation."